I'm totally bushed. Just got home. My day today ended on a sad note when I got a phone call from a relative telling me that some shocking, sad news that she has apparently kept to herself for over a year to refrain from hurting her sons and her Mom. But you can't keep something like that bottled up inside you and remain sane. She finally relented, called me to vent and rant and wordlessly scream out her frustration. We cried together over the phone and I cursed her husband for doing this to her.

What is it about most men that make them so dense? Is it some kind of anomaly in their genetic makeup that turns them into morons and drive them to abandon their family so easily. Is that what marriage is nowadays? If the man feels that he's gotten tired of it all, he'll just send his wife a text message and tell her "I want out. It's over. Let's part ways." That's it? Years of marriage goes down the drain.

I'd like to remain single forever if that's the case.

My parents have, thank God, stayed together for nearly 40 years. (And no, don't start making that as a basis to compute my age because they remained childless for quite a while before they had me). Sure they fight a lot. My Dad used to drink a lot. My Mom was a nagger. And I was a witness to how some of their fights would turn a bit nasty when I was growing up (especially when Mom was going through her menopausal stage).

But they stayed together. They worked hard at making it work because they had faith in their marriage. And everyday they prayed hard enough. Sure there were times they must have felt like ripping each other's throats but they're still together now. After all these years.


Thinking of my parents' marriage makes me want to strangle my relative's husband even more. He could have that waiting for him after 30 or so years, but he's throwing it all away for some inane, stupid, irrational reason.

So much for a tidbit of a post!

To end this, just a picture of the other half of the marriage that has inspired me to believe that there is hope in a happily forever after:

Mom, the pork-lover, at our favorite Mexican restaurant during a Sunday family lunch.

5 croaks:

jentaylor08
at: December 10, 2010 at 12:09 AM said...

I am so sorry to hear your family member is having a difficult time. I will say some prayers that strength and comfort be given in this time of need.

TJ
at: December 10, 2010 at 12:11 PM said...

My heart goes out to her. He is not worthy of her time and love, and I pray that she finds her inner strengh to heal from this a******.

Mom is making me hungry!

Jody says:
at: December 21, 2010 at 9:32 PM said...

I am so sorry your relative has to go through this. There certainly are some lame brained men out there that do't know up from down when they go through "Male Menopause"

Suzan
at: December 22, 2010 at 5:11 PM said...

So sorry to hear/read this!
Men are just plain stupid sometimes!
(Sorry for putting it like this)

I hope she realises it's not her fault and will find the strength and courage to go on with her life and that of her kids after a while.

Your story is hurtful too. I recognize a lot in it.

Take care!
Love from Holland

Tosha says:
at: December 23, 2010 at 7:41 AM said...

And to think some people are worried that allowing Gays to marry will some how corrupt traditional marriage.

I love to see couples who've lasted over 30 years. That's saying a lot. 40 to 60 years married to the same person...vanishing.


I wonder if the cultural tradition of the parents choosing the spouse for their children still has better success than traditional American marriages?